How would you rate yourself as a father, wife, husband, mother, from a scale of 1 to 10? But you cannot use 7.

A few years ago I would have rated myself a four on the husband and maybe a five or six on the Dad’s scale. I had a lot of built-up resentment and anger towards my family for what I thought I needed to do to provide for them. Forgiving myself that’s been one of the biggest struggles I’ve had. There will be more on forgiveness on next week’s email.

Now think about how your wife or husband or kids would rate you. This is a tough one and try to be completely honest with yourself.

Now how do you think you could improve on your number?

I had a very very difficult time being honest with my family and I just had to stop lying and be more open about how I was feeling and what I was struggling with.

Is your life working? This is either a yes or a no. Then I would ask yourself how do you know? And how did I get here? And finally am I clear about what I’m fighting for?

Please feel free to respond to this email and ask me for any clarification or share some of your thoughts. Also would be happy to jump on a phone call with anybody. We’re going to have all of these emails on a blog post on my personal website which is Phil Randazzo.com and please feel free to pass this along to anyone you care about that might benefit from just answering these simple questions. See you all next week.

Phil